Emotional Regulation

Emotions, one of the most natural attributes of human beings. We feel it every day on a diverse scale of variety and intensity.

But have you ever wondered why do we feel emotions?

What role do they play?

Emotions are necessary to generate the required behaviour in a situation.

For example,

Let’s say that you are walking down the street with your friend. A cyclist is coming from the opposite direction and he is about to run into your friend.

A sudden emotion of fear will jerk your hand to pull your friend closer and out of the cyclist’s way.

Emotions also help us to communicate with others and ourselves.

This is one of reason why we say that laughter is contagious. Without using any words you communicate your joy with people around you.

Just through emotions of joy.

Now, there are times when these emotions get the worst of you. The time when a situation makes you angry but you cannot afford being angry.

For example, your company has missed a shipment because of an error on your side.

The immediate emotion is of anger, but if you start getting angry and throwing things around you might lose the next shipment due in 20 minutes. 

So, how do you regulate your emotions?

How do you control your emotions, rather than letting the emotions control you?

The answer to this is Emotional Regulation

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The world renowned psychologist, James Gross Ph.D. defines emotional regulation as follows, ‘the processes by which individuals influence which emotions they have, when they have them, and how they experience and express their emotions’.

This can be done in a couple of simple steps, at institutes like Happy Brain Coach. The experts will help you to

     a.)  Find your emotions

     For example, let’s say a person who is in a leading position in a company has experienced a personal loss. It has also started affecting his work and incurred some loses in the company. This is a complex situation during which the person cannot pinpoint the emotions that he is feeling. Hence it first important to help the person to find the emotions and then help him regulate it with the next step.

     b.)   Help you regulate it with exercises. One of which is the mindful exercise.

Mindfulness is the ability to know what's happening in your head at all times. Once you are aware of it, you can take charge and tell your brain what to think. The easiest way to do it is the 5 senses loop technique.

Emotional regulation is one of the most powerful traits of highly successful people. With the right guidance from the right experts you can regulate your emotions and channel them into positive results quicker than you think.